You’ve heard me say over and over that the true expert on adoption are adopted people. So who better to give today’s parents raising transracially adopted kids a view into their child’s experience than adoptees in their early to mid 20’s. They are old enough to have processed some of their experience, but not too old to have forgotten the feelings, and they have lived in a similar time in our country’s racial evolution. They are in many ways the perfect guides for today’s transracial adoptive parents.
We gathered a panel of young adult black adoptees (domestic and international, male and female, adopted as infants and toddlers) to share their experience with growing up brown in a white family, racism, and standing out in the crowd. Some of what they said surprised me, and much of what they said reassured me. If you are a transracial adoptive parent and you can only listen to one Creating a Family show this year, make it this one. I simply can’t recommend it enough.