Adoption is all about “hurry up and wait”. First you submit your application. Wait. Complete your home study and adoptive parent profile. Wait. Start being shown to expectant women or foster care caseworker. Wait. (and sometime wait and wait some more)
Waiting sounds like a passive activity, but it usually involves a lot of hovering around your phone, jumping every time it rings, and hoping against hope that it is your social workers calling or emailing to tell you that your profile is being shown to a prospective birth mother or that you are being considered for a foster care adoption placement. Then you wait some more to hear whether you are chosen.
But what if you aren’t chosen? What if someone else gets The Call? They will soon be a mom, and you are left waiting yet again?
We were contacted on Thursday by our adoption agency about an emergency situation where the baby was being delivered today via c section. Of course we said yes and we were kind of excited (how could you not be). I woke up to an email from the agency saying that if she went through with the adoption plan, she had chosen another family that she would want to meet.