Few people who have suffered with infertility have escaped being told, or telling themselves, that maybe their being infertile was “meant to be” or maybe they weren’t “meant to be” a parent. Do you think your infertility was meant to be?
I always think about what people said about infertile people when I was a kid, how they just weren’t meant to be parents or it wasn’t part of God’s plan for them, and they should accept it. I thought it kind of made sense then. Now that I find I’m infertile, I’m really struggling with that explanation. …Just because things are difficult, does that mean they’re not meant to be? If a person’s house is blown over in storm, does that mean God wants them to be homeless? If a person’s spouse dies, does that mean God meant for them to be alone? ~ Member of the Creating a Family Online Support Group